The thing I’ve noticed about happiness is that it’s more about moments than milestones. I think we set ourselves up for disappointment when we have these big, hairy, audacious goals that have to be met by a certain age or a specific time in our lives.
Moments of happiness, on the other hand, are ripe for the picking. We just need to remember to pluck one out of each day.
The year before I had left a man, the land, and a life I loved in Santa Fe, New Mexico, to move back to the Midwest. As it turned out, within forty-eight hours of returning to the family farm my personal crisis and grief gave way to a global crisis and grief felt around the world as 9/11 changed life as we knew it. Suddenly I was grateful to be with family and friends in a familiar place that felt safer and more solid than the ground I had just walked away from.
I was shell shocked for the better part of a year and then decided it was time to bloom where I was planted. I did what I knew how to do best. My family helped me renovate the upstairs of an old apartment building and I started teaching exercise and creativity classes. I developed some online courses and offered my coaching services to anyone with an Internet connection. I took my show on the road when necessary and split my time between the Southwest and Midwest and mastered the art of living on air and credit cards.
For me, the goal has always been to grow and learn and do it on my own timetable. Like Sinatra, I’d like to look back on my life and be able to boast, “I did it my way.”
So, I shall stick to my bold Bobby McFerrin advice for this week. Don’t worry, be happy! I couldn’t make this claim last week because I was convinced the house deal would tank over who should pay for the radon mitigation system. Fortunately the six Buddhas sitting strategically throughout my current home had the desired effect of allowing compassion rather than pride to rule the day.
On this day when we remember the loss of so many loved ones, I vow to live my life with renewed peace, purpose, passion, and last but not least, pleasure! May you do the same, if you are so inclined.