Imagine the sky is the limit, the world is your oyster, you possess the winning lottery ticket, and nothing stands between you and living the dream.
My guess is that even though you are only imagining and not declaring, proclaiming, or asserting that this is indeed true, you may still be holding back and not really feeling the bliss you associate with getting what you want.
In almost everything worth doing, achieving, or working for there is both excitement and terror, attraction and repulsion, certainty and cluelessness.
My recent adventure to Los Angeles to attend the Live Your Message workshop was a case in point. I was compelled to go until it came time to book the flight, make the hotel reservation, pack my bags, and fly across the country with nothing more than my coordinates. Then the nagging question became, “What was I thinking?“
I have done this enough times to know that this is a good sign. In the workshop coach Brian Whetten shared the idea and title of his book, “Yes, Yes, Hell No!” with us as a fail proof decision making strategy.
When the voice of intuition says “Yes!“, the voice of reason says, “Yes!“, and the voice of fear steps in with a resounding, “Hell No!“, you have most likely stumbled upon something worth pursuing.
There are times when intuition, reason, and fear all line up with a yes or a no. In these cases, the decision is easy. We know a good thing when we see it just as we know a disaster in the making.
What’s really hard for us to grasp is how we make the course corrections that take us from good to great, from fine to fabulous, from ordinary to extraordinary. Because these are not easy decisions. These are investments. The only currency that matters in these exchanges is the time, effort, and attitude we put on the line.
The three days I spent in Los Angeles with strangers who become fast friends was marked by the intensity of the collective investment in our dreams and the sheer joy of knowing we have both the luxury and the burden of bringing our message to the world. I have no doubt when we meet again in a year, most of the people in the room will have achieved great things in a very short time.
Fear has its place, its purpose, and does its very best to keep us alive and prevent us from embarrassing ourselves or family members. We have to allow fear to have its say, just not at the expense of reason and intuition.
Too many of us have been bullied into giving up great because great seemed greedy and good seemed good enough. Consequently, I’m here to remind you of what fabulous feels like.
To me it feels like having a handful of new friends from all walks of life who share a vision of what’s possible for all of us. It feels like larger than life leaders who are a few steps ahead of me on the journey who are willing to make my path easier by generously offering me a road-map complete with construction areas and detours outlined. It feels like a community coming together to share their talents, trepidations, vision, and risk being seen in their pajamas. (Monday was Talent Show Night; Tuesday – Pajama Party).
For the past two years I have done something so far out of my comfort zone in January that it automatically set me up for a year of “Yes, Yes, Hell No’s!” .
My hope for you this month is that you discover these kinds of opportunities as well. If you’ve already experienced something like this or suspect you may have one of these opportunities coming up, please share in the comments below.
Simply sharing a comment may be enough for you to experience, “Yes, Yes, Hell No!” since commenting means you have to show up and be visible/vulnerable in this community. Don’t worry, we’re nice and it’s safe here. 🙂