I just got back from spending a few days in Boston with my tribe of transformational coaches and creatives. I’ve only been a Rockstar on a Mission since March and a Wildflower since September but I barely recognize the quiet, questioning version of me who wondered whether investing in these coaching communities could catapult me out of my comfort zone and into my contribution zone.
I know now it was the only thing that could.
I’ve spent years lost in cyberspace, investing in online programs that promised all kinds of incredible results from the comfort of my couch. I eagerly downloaded all the modules and organized them in binders and convinced myself that doing that was the same as doing the actual work.
You have to change out of your pajamas, take a shower, and get out and meet people if you intend to save the world. Because you just can’t do it in isolation.
The evening before I invested what seemed like my life’s savings to become a Rockstar, I cataloged every single program I had invested in for the last 30 years. As impressive as this list was in length and depth, I became painfully aware that I’d kept most of those experiences and the wisdom they afforded locked in a virtual vault somewhere inside of me.
One I had apparently lost the combination to.
I realized my success could only come from cracking the code and sharing what was inside instead of keeping this treasure tucked away.
It also meant shedding the safety of my invisibility cloak and showing up in full Queen regalia, ready to Own My Throne.
As soon as I stepped into my Rockstar role, I began to crack the code. I gave myself one year to play full out with a group of others committed to doing the same.
We would leave no stone unturned as we dived deeply into the beliefs and stories surrounding our resistance, fears, and ability to move forward.
It hasn’t been easy. It hasn’t been pretty. And it certainly has not been for the faint of heart. It has taken a lot of time, money, and, in my case, airplane tickets to far away places.
But eight months into it, I’ve done things with my tribes that I could have never done on my own. I’ve led my own Tapping Into Your Wellpower retreat, I’ve led tapping circles at other retreats, I’ve led my team on a scavenger hunt at the Natick Mall, and I’ve gone to the pyramids of Teotihuacan where I learned sacred ceremonies to harness air, water, earth, and fire. I have spread my message from coast to coast and met shamans, healers, artists, mentors, coaches, and collaborators of every kind.
I share this not to boast but to tell you if you want to change the world (by first changing yourself), you can.
You just can’t do it alone.
And frankly, why would you want to?
There are so many fascinating people who have done what you want to do. Learn from them. Take advantage of the their vantage point – even if they are only a few steps ahead of you. Study what works and what doesn’t. Give yourself the gift of their guidance even as you chart your own course.
And by all means, start before you are ready. You’ve heard me say this before but it’s worth repeating.
There will always be a hundred things you think you need to know or do or accomplish before you start.
You’re scared. Believe me, I know.
The truth is you can’t know or do or accomplish many of those things that loom large until you start. You can’t fully appreciate how Facebook Live works until you do a Facebook Live broadcast. You can’t know how you will host a retreat until you host a retreat.
What do you want to do by when?
Set a date.
Tell the world.
Then get to work.
Let the goal pull you forward instead of allowing your fears to hold you back. Let the excitement of publicly committing to your goal burn through your fears and be the catalyst for taking easily executable action steps. These steps will help you establish a steady rhythm of fear-busting moves that combat analysis paralysis.
And let me share one more little secret. Getting there can be as thrilling as arriving. It’s all about the journey, the climb, the road to redemption.
When I announced my Tapping Into Your Wellpower Retreat I had no idea who would come, how I would coordinate all the moving parts, or what I would offer as a follow-up. I only knew I was committed to doing whatever it took to make it the best retreat I could.
Because I had enrolled in a Retreat Blueprint program, I had an idea of what was necessary to run a successful retreat. But because I had never actually run one myself, I had to become a marketing machine, an event planner, a customer service rep, and anything else that was required. As if by magic, becoming all that activated my super-powers.
Who you become along the way determines how deeply and richly you can celebrate once you reach your destination and how confidently you continue to move forward.
When my retreat went off without a hitch, I celebrated like it was 1999. And when no one was watching, I danced around my house to my favorite celebration song. And then I headed to Mexico to embark on a scary, new, life-changing adventure.
So please, as Goethe suggests, “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”
I’d love to hear about the magic you are conjuring up. Please let me know in the comments below so I can cheer you on.