|Here’s what I like about you.|
(It’s a long list, so settle in.)
You can do impossible things.
You prove that every day.
You’ve suffered setbacks
in your career and relationships
and learned how to course correct
and declare a do-over.
You’ve experienced unimaginable losses
and a devastating amount of shame.
You’ve lost a parent, a child,
a sibling, a spouse,
a friend, a pet,
or they’ve lost their way,
and somehow you’ve
found the faith to love
and offer support again.
You have taken risks
that nearly broke you
and still struggle with
for not knowing better.
You’ve been misunderstood
and yet you remain
open to what’s possible
even when it requires you
to risk it all again.
You do the necessary hard work.
You go in early,
and shovel snow
even when you know
no one else will attempt
to venture out.
You’ve bought more self-improvement courses
than you’ll ever complete,
but you don’t let this stop you
from seizing new opportunities
to invest in yourself
and build a better world.
Your body has betrayed you.
You may have experienced
a threat to your health
that brought you face to face
with your own mortality.
You’re getting older in spite of
your ageless attitude,
and inimitable shoe collection.
Somewhere along the line you started
working overtime instead of working out.
You occasionally overindulge
and binge watch entire seasons
of your favorite shows
all in one weekend
when you could be
clearing out the clutter,
attending a CrossFit class,
or preparing healthy meals
for the upcoming week.
But you believe Mondays
are like New Year’s Day,
so you begin again
and vow to do better.
You worry about the world
going to hell in a hand basket
and secretly suspect it’s
weapons of mass distraction
that will ultimately lead to our undoing.
You fear that folks have forgotten
how to talk to each other,
think for themselves,
follow their guidance,
or stand up for what they believe in.
So you make sure to vote
even though you know
your neighbor will vote differently.
You smile at strangers even though
they may interpret this small
act of kindness as stalking,
and you speak your truth
even if your voice shakes.
You are brave when bravery is required.
You are resilient even when you are bone tired.
You weave a spell with words that soothe the soul.
And you sing despite your reputation
for making up your own lyrics.
You are more than the sum of your parts –
even though all your parts are perfect in their imperfection.
You are always evolving.
You are still learning.
And so you remain a mystery –
even to yourself.
You see life differently.
You are wildly creative
which makes you
You hug trees,
flirt with babies,
let your dog occupy
the choicest spot on your bed,
let your cat commandeer your computer
(to allegedly manage her Instagram account),
and let baby goats jump on you during yoga.
You orchestrate the elements,
bend time, and defy gravity.
You feel deeply so you hurt easily.
You know intuitively so you act instinctively.
You keep these gifts hidden so you can
blend in and not out yourself as
the force of nature that you are.
Your curiosity keeps you questioning the status quo.
Your attraction to the extraordinary
summons you to sacred sites.
Your generosity makes you magnetic.
Your vulnerability makes you irresistible.
Your dancing makes you legendary.
Your sense of humor makes you the life of the party…
should you ever stray from the sanctuary
of your studio, library, garden, or kitchen.
You bloom where you are planted.
You are a sensual creature who insists on honesty
wherever you can find it.
You are a meaning maker
with an appetite for adventure.
You are a citizen of the world,
a renegade, a revolutionary,
a rebel with a most compelling cause.
You are a visionary, a shapeshifter, a truth teller,
a way shower, and a light worker.
You are grounded in this world
but not exactly of it.
You are a Spark of the Divine.
Made up of stardust and moonbeams, you are.
You continue to surprise and delight.
Because of that, I’m all in.
I’m devoted to helping you get
from where you are now to where you want to go.
Because I want more for you than you dare to want for yourself.
And partnering with people I adore as much as I do you
is what I’m most grateful for thisThanksgiving.
THE “HOLIDAZE” ARE HERE!!
If you are triggered just hearing those words,
then it’s time to tap!
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April can be a very taxing time of year in the US.
Whether you pay taxes quarterly or yearly, get money back or have to pay money in, there is a general reckoning that always leaves me feeling, well, taxed.
I know it doesn’t have to be that way.
Yet once the dreadful day has come and gone, taking a good chunk of change with it, I forget how urgent and uncomfortable it is to account for it all.
This year I decided to take matters into my own hands. And since writing is what I generally do with my hands, I’m writing my way to a new, empowering money story.
I invite you to do the same.
Last month I participated in an online Millionaire Mindset Challenge that was nothing short of miraculous. The energy of the creative community was contagious, the possibilities endless, and the miracles multiplied by our collective witnessing of them.
So many of my friends asked me about it that I decided to create my own version of it called Pennies From Heaven.
I’m changing up the rules a bit to give you a little more time to ponder your potential and adding a few Angel Investors to guide you to your most magnificent manifestations.
Because your mind can’t distinguish between what’s real and what’s vividly imagined, you’re going to conjure up the most creative scenarios you can for experiencing the kind of wealth and abundance you’ve only dreamed about thus far.
Whether you like it or not, you are experiencing the precise level of abundance you can comfortably handle at the moment. What??? Can that be true?
Let me just speculate and suggest you may have a few money hang-ups that are getting in the way of experiencing the kind of wealth and abundance you desire.
Whether these be unspoken vows, limiting beliefs, or a general distrust that the Universe is conspiring on your behalf, it might be worth looking at your money story and see if you can allow yourself to play your way to prosperity.
“Who’s got time for fun and games?” you ask.
Well, I hope you do! I, for one, could definitely use a little more levity in my life.
After suffering in silence and solitude for decades, I’ve discovered the key to my success is surrounding myself with wise and witty friends who are curious, open to new experiences, and can see things from a different perspective than I can. If I’m going to tackle a touch topic like money, I’d prefer to do it with my tribe.
Consider this your invitation to hop on board the Pennies From Heaven money miracle manifestation train. Even if no actual money shows up during the game, the insights you gain into your money story will set the stage for future windfalls.
Look at it this way. If you were expecting a baby, pursuing a degree, directing a movie, or taking a vacation, you’d prepare for it, right? You’d plan for a nursery, register for classes, hire some actors, or make travel arrangements.
The same applies to increasing your income. You may say you want more money, but if you can’t manage what you have now, how will you successfully manage more?
Pennies From Heaven is your practice field.
If you’d like to play along, just write “Show Me the Money!” in the comments below. The game will be played through our Pennies From Heaven Facebook group, so if you’re on Facebook, just ask to join the group and I’ll add you.
If you’ve already mastered money and want to look at relationships, health, or any other area of your life, the same rules of the game apply. I’d love for you to join me and play your way to whatever you most desire.
With a name like Penny, I’ve heard money references my whole life. And like many people, I’ve had a complicated, complex, and at times chaotic relationship with money.
After sharing the results I experienced participating in the Millionaire Mindset Challenge with the fabulous Fiona Orr, many of you asked how you could play.
I have been wanting to jump into the topic of money and mindset for a while now, but I wanted to do it in a way that felt light and liberating. After having so much fun with the challenge, a game seemed like the best way to do this.
Hence, Pennies from Heaven was hatched.
Money is a loaded topic. And because we all have issues around it, I decided it was time to come clean with mine.
As a highly creative person, the managing of money seemed less of a priority to me than pursuing my passions. But I quickly found out, until I learned the art of making and managing money, pursuing my passions might not be financially possible.
I invested a whole heap of money learning about business in the last year that have directly impacted the way I show up in the world as well as what I am willing to believe and achieve.
I didn’t do it without fear or resistance. I did, however, take consistent action and did not back down when things got difficult, challenging, or overwhelming.
The difference was I built an unbelievable support system made up of great coaches and risk takers who were going through the same thing or were a few steps ahead of me, reassuring me I could do it.
And this is what I want to offer you.
A chance to stretch your imagination, play with some new perspectives and possibilities, and feel the support of others who are doing the same in a safe environment.
April can be a tense and tricky month around money and taxes. So it’s the perfect month to start playing with prosperity!
I’ll be sharing more details in the next couple of weeks.
The only thing you need to know right now is whether you’re willing to take the leap with me and play along.
PS – Did I mention you get to play for FREE? Just type “I’m in!” in the comments below and I’ll make sure you get all the juicy details.
If a lucky leprechaun failed to lead you to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow on St.Patrick’s day, never fear.
There are many ways to manifest a miracle that don’t involved leprechauns, lotteries, or even luck.
They do, however, require a little imagination, a lot of faith, and an action plan.
A few weeks ago I started playing a game called the Millionaire Mindset Challenge with the fabulous Fiona Orr. It starts with receiving $250 virtual money and doubles every week day so that by the end of the first week the amount is already up to $4000. In a few short weeks, you’ve amassed a million virtual bucks.
The only rule is that you share your money story in as many splendid details as possible of where the money comes from and where it goes. Did you earn it, win it, or was it a gift? How will you spend it, what will you buy, where will you go, what will you do? You assume all debts are paid so no money can go to paying off debt.
How does playing this game change anything in real life?
As Fiona says, “The more specific you can be, the more you activate the trifecta of happiness neurochemicals in your brain – dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin. So just playing the game will make you feel happy if you let yourself really feel like it’s real. Your brain does not know the difference between imagination and reality.”
So when you make the emotions and scenarios so real, so compelling, and so specific, your mind doesn’t make the distinction between an actual the windfall and an imagined one. You start raising your vibration and open to having this money show up in your life because you know what it feels like and have plan for it when it arrives.
Many players have already experienced real money showing up – me included – and I must say, it’s pretty darn exciting.
The crazy thing is we are all capable of manifesting miracles of all kinds and do so on a regular basis. But most of us fail to acknowledge that anything out of the ordinary is happening.
I facilitate a monthly mastermind group called Practicing Everyday Alchemy. The goal of the group is to transform the ordinary into the extraordinary.
It starts with the right mindset and the ability to see what’s hidden in plain sight.
This happens when a handful of people connected by a promise, a person, and a picture of what’s possible come together. When a tribe of people who matter to each other start believing in each other, things get really interesting.
People start taking action. People start succeeding because their success lifts up the entire group. People take risks because others have their backs.
A year ago I invested in a coaching program that required a huge financial leap, travel to Boston four times throughout the year, and a rigorous examination into my fears, shadows, hopes, and dreams. I made this journey with about forty other women and men who have shown me what’s possible through their vulnerability and courage.
Belonging to such an amazing group has multiplied my miracles. I joined two other groups and allowed myself to participate and be seen in a way I’d never done before. Experiencing first hand the kind of transformation that can happen with the support of others in a safe and sacred space, I made it my mission to create that space for others.
Of course, the biggest secret to manifesting miracles is to believe you can. To know you are worthy of your deepest desires and to expand your bandwidth to allow for the fulfillment of them.
I liken it to placing an order on Amazon. When you order something, you expect it to arrive. You don’t wonder if you’re worthy of receiving it. You know it’s on its way.
Some miracles simply take time to manifest. Like birthing babies, writing books, shaping beach bodies, or apprenticing with shamans. Some miracles require preparation and practice.
One of the best things you can do to prepare is to align your energy and adjust your environment for the imminent arrival of your miracle in the making. Make a plan, act as if, ask and you shall receive. All in good time. Or in an instant. Or when you least expect it.
What happens when you play a game like the Millionaire Mindset is sooner or later you come up against your limitations. You feel the resistance, you hear the voices of everyone and everything that ever held you back, and you might even get a little angry that you can’t allow yourself to have what you want.
But if you keep playing through the resistance, you start to realize what’s possible for you.
And that may be the biggest miracle of all.
I’d love to hear what you’d do with your ever increasing wealth. Where would it come from? What would you do with it? Dare to share in the comments below.
Since the snow continues to accumulate here in Iowa I thought I would try my luck at skiing on Saturday. My niece wanted to ski and Bob’s nephew wanted to snowboard and because they still think of me as the hip and crazy aunt who will try anything, I could not disappoint them.
I’m not really sure why I thought I could ski since I haven’t been on skis in over 20 years and I’ve never once had a lesson. Maybe it’s the subliminal messages the Winter Olympics athletes are sending us to get out and act like an Olympian in our own lives.
By attempting to ski I learned about myself, fear, fun, and falling down. As much as I like to think I’m able to listen to my body’s wisdom, my head hijacks whatever is attempting to communicate through my extremities at the first sign of danger.
In my case, this happened as soon as I slid by boots into the skis and attempted to maneuver over to the bunny hill. The ability to put one foot in front of the other without falling over suddenly became a monumental task.
“What was I thinking?” became the only thing I was thinking. Until I fell and then, “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!” became the predominant thought.
“Take off your skis!” Kat advised as I pondered how my knees and feet might work in unison with skis pointed in opposite directions.
“You can do it!” Brad encouraged.
And I did.
After a successful run down “Rookie’s Ridge“, I moved on to the “green” hill where I wiped out a couple of times and skied right into a snowbank.
I think it takes most people 3-5 minutes to ski that slope. I’m pretty sure it took me 35.
“Come on, Pen! Try going a little faster,” the young ones quipped. It sure seemed like I was moving at top speed when I skied into the snow bank.
Luckily Kat and Brad were more patient than I ever expected them to be. They even acted like they knew me when I came careening into the chairlift area.
Did I have a fabulous time? A humbling time would be more like it.
In my mind, I still believe I’m their age. It always shocks me when my body reminds me this is no longer the case.
But courage begets courage. I’m not sure I would have even agreed to try this had I not just started a mastermind group called Practicing Everyday Alchemy and been buoyed by the support and faith of a fearless group of amazing alchemists.
Every Olympian has an entire team behind them encouraging, supporting, training, and seeing them through their toughest and most glorious moments. Why wouldn’t I put a similar support system in place when I take my leap into the unknown?
Having just read an incredibly insightful book by Shawn Achor called Big Potential, I wouldn’t attempt anything worthwhile without assembling a star system that allows me to not only to tap into my potential, but the bigger potential of everyone in the group.
It’s often the tiniest of actions that catapult us out of our comfort zone and into what I call our evolutionary zone. Sometimes it’s heading to the slopes. Other times it’s passing on dessert or an alcoholic beverage. It could even be cleaning out a room in order to create some breathing space.
What courageous acts – big or small – have you taken lately?
Who makes up your star support system and allows you to shine your light in new and adventurous ways?
Please share in the comments below so we can celebrate your moments of magnificence with you and those who made it possible for you!
What if you could put together a Dream Team and surround yourself with people who *get* you? People who innately understand who you are, what you want to create in the world, and know how to make it happen?
I used to think this was a pipe dream for me. I felt I was too quirky or creative or woo-woo or whatever for most people, so I tried to keep it all under wraps.
Until I realized all of that “weirdness” was really what people wanted to see, hear, feel, and experience with me. The boldness of being myself gave other people permission to do the same.
In a world full of carbon copies, there is nothing more daring that being an original. And nothing more liberating.
I have spent a lifetime purchasing personal growth programs to improve my performance in just about every area of my life. And though I am forever grateful to the gurus who have shown me their way, none of them could really show me my way.
That was up to me to figure out.
And for most of my life, I thought I had to figure it out alone.
I did more in a year than I had in a decade. Not because I didn’t know how to do these things, I just didn’t have a Dream Team in place to help me get these ideas out of my head and into the world.
Now that I do, I want to help you create the same. Because if you could do it alone, you would have already.
I know you are brilliant. You are funny and creative and have a dream inside you that you have kept hidden from everyone because you can’t bear to see it fail.
But what if you couldn’t fail?
Or what if you could fail but had a team of incredibly supportive people in place to help you rebuild or dream a better dream?
What if these people has eyes, ears, and expertise in areas you didn’t and would gladly share their perspectives with you?
What would that be worth to you?
After sharing The 12 Days of Coaching last month, I had an epiphany.
More than information, what people are really craving is community.
Since you are part of my community, I want to share an opportunity that only comes along once in a blue moon (literally…the opportunity ends with the blue moon on Wednesday, January 31) to Practice Everyday Alchemy with me and some of the best and brightest people I know.
This mastermind group will meet monthly for 6 months. We will mindfully master the challenges that wake us up at all hours of the morning. And we’ll learn to thrive with a little help from our fellow Everyday Alchemists.
But don’t wait too long. The first Mastery call is next Sunday, February 4th and I’d love for you to be on it.
If you’d like to talk with me in person about this and see if this is for you, just fill out the contact form below so I can connect with you.
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If you have been or are a part of a Dream Team now, I’d love to hear about your experiences in the comments below.
I often get asked what coaching is all about and why I’m convinced finding yourself a great one will change your life.
Instead of trying to explain coaching, I’m just going to start coaching so you can see for yourself how having the consistent encouragement of just one other person can catapult you out of your comfort zone and into your curiosity/contribution zone.
Following in the tradition of the 12 Days of Christmas, I’m going to share with you the 12 Days of Coaching. If after 12 Days of Coaching you are convinced you must get yourself a coach, then we can have a conversation.
Starting in January, I’ll be taking on a small group of clients who are determined to make 2018 their breakthrough year. If this equally excites and terrifies you, then I’d love for you to be one of them. Because I feel the same way!
You see, I started 2017 with the idea that I’d give myself a year to play full out and walk through every door that opened to me.
I had no idea in January that by December I would have experienced one of the best years of my life. I traveled extensively, hosted my own retreat, and added hundreds of new friends to my inner circle.
None of this seemed remotely possible until I got some coaching.
Now anything seems possible.
And I want to help you create the same thing.
If you are intrigued by the idea of coaching, please send me an email or leave me a comment below.
PS – On the first day of coaching, what did my coach whisper to me? Jump on over to my Facebook Page to find out!
I just got back from spending a few days in Boston with my tribe of transformational coaches and creatives. I’ve only been a Rockstar on a Mission since March and a Wildflower since September but I barely recognize the quiet, questioning version of me who wondered whether investing in these coaching communities could catapult me out of my comfort zone and into my contribution zone.
I know now it was the only thing that could.
I’ve spent years lost in cyberspace, investing in online programs that promised all kinds of incredible results from the comfort of my couch. I eagerly downloaded all the modules and organized them in binders and convinced myself that doing that was the same as doing the actual work.
You have to change out of your pajamas, take a shower, and get out and meet people if you intend to save the world. Because you just can’t do it in isolation.
The evening before I invested what seemed like my life’s savings to become a Rockstar, I cataloged every single program I had invested in for the last 30 years. As impressive as this list was in length and depth, I became painfully aware that I’d kept most of those experiences and the wisdom they afforded locked in a virtual vault somewhere inside of me.
One I had apparently lost the combination to.
I realized my success could only come from cracking the code and sharing what was inside instead of keeping this treasure tucked away.
It also meant shedding the safety of my invisibility cloak and showing up in full Queen regalia, ready to Own My Throne.
As soon as I stepped into my Rockstar role, I began to crack the code. I gave myself one year to play full out with a group of others committed to doing the same.
We would leave no stone unturned as we dived deeply into the beliefs and stories surrounding our resistance, fears, and ability to move forward.
It hasn’t been easy. It hasn’t been pretty. And it certainly has not been for the faint of heart. It has taken a lot of time, money, and, in my case, airplane tickets to far away places.
But eight months into it, I’ve done things with my tribes that I could have never done on my own. I’ve led my own Tapping Into Your Wellpower retreat, I’ve led tapping circles at other retreats, I’ve led my team on a scavenger hunt at the Natick Mall, and I’ve gone to the pyramids of Teotihuacan where I learned sacred ceremonies to harness air, water, earth, and fire. I have spread my message from coast to coast and met shamans, healers, artists, mentors, coaches, and collaborators of every kind.
I share this not to boast but to tell you if you want to change the world (by first changing yourself), you can.
You just can’t do it alone.
And frankly, why would you want to?
There are so many fascinating people who have done what you want to do. Learn from them. Take advantage of the their vantage point – even if they are only a few steps ahead of you. Study what works and what doesn’t. Give yourself the gift of their guidance even as you chart your own course.
And by all means, start before you are ready. You’ve heard me say this before but it’s worth repeating.
There will always be a hundred things you think you need to know or do or accomplish before you start.
You’re scared. Believe me, I know.
The truth is you can’t know or do or accomplish many of those things that loom large until you start. You can’t fully appreciate how Facebook Live works until you do a Facebook Live broadcast. You can’t know how you will host a retreat until you host a retreat.
What do you want to do by when?
Set a date.
Tell the world.
Then get to work.
Let the goal pull you forward instead of allowing your fears to hold you back. Let the excitement of publicly committing to your goal burn through your fears and be the catalyst for taking easily executable action steps. These steps will help you establish a steady rhythm of fear-busting moves that combat analysis paralysis.
And let me share one more little secret. Getting there can be as thrilling as arriving. It’s all about the journey, the climb, the road to redemption.
When I announced my Tapping Into Your Wellpower Retreat I had no idea who would come, how I would coordinate all the moving parts, or what I would offer as a follow-up. I only knew I was committed to doing whatever it took to make it the best retreat I could.
Because I had enrolled in a Retreat Blueprint program, I had an idea of what was necessary to run a successful retreat. But because I had never actually run one myself, I had to become a marketing machine, an event planner, a customer service rep, and anything else that was required. As if by magic, becoming all that activated my super-powers.
Who you become along the way determines how deeply and richly you can celebrate once you reach your destination and how confidently you continue to move forward.
When my retreat went off without a hitch, I celebrated like it was 1999. And when no one was watching, I danced around my house to my favorite celebration song. And then I headed to Mexico to embark on a scary, new, life-changing adventure.
So please, as Goethe suggests, “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”
I’d love to hear about the magic you are conjuring up. Please let me know in the comments below so I can cheer you on.
Our Tapping Into Your Wellpower Retreat is just 9 days away! I’m so excited to be spending a day at the Rickert Lodge in Bellevue with such fabulous new friends.
It takes courage to commit to spending a day doing a deep dive into those areas where most people are content to stay where it’s numbingly comfortable.
Up until now, I’ve attended retreats. Lots of them. This time I’ll be leading one.
It’s a gigantic leap but one I’ve been preparing for all summer. I’m thrilled to put my spin on the lessons I’ve learned from hanging out with some of the best teachers in some the world’s most beautiful places.
I have grand plans to host future retreats in the places dearest to my heart like Santa Fe, St. George, and Monterey. But for my first go round, it makes sense to stay local and start small. I’ll get through 1 day and work my way up to a week.
I couldn’t ask for a lovelier setting than the Rickert Lodge in Bellevue, Iowa. It’s close to home but far enough away from my normal work environment that it feels like a get-away.
The biggest challenge has been to pick just one theme for the day. I remind myself it has taken me a lifetime to integrate the various teachings and experiences I’ve had. As tempted as I may be to throw a little bit of a lot of things into the ring, the last thing I want to do is overwhelm someone coming to me in search of tranquility.
So I will teach something I love (tapping/EFT) that I know can make a profound difference in the lives of others in a very short time.
Today I said to a co-worker, “This is what it feels like to realize a dream.”
And remarkably it feels like another day in paradise. A day where dozens of creative decisions and compromises must be made, people surprise or delight me, others challenge me, and the dogs still demand a walk. (Because they know the walk puts it all in perspective.)
This is the beauty of stepping into your well of power and owning your throne. It forces you to be a better version of yourself. Putting together this retreat has proven the Goethe quote to be true.
“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. Whatever you think you can do, or believe you can do, begin it. Action has magic, power and grace.”
All kinds of things came into alignment as soon as I committed to hold the retreat. I have become more of a business person than I ever thought possible for a creatively quirky individual. Incredibly, I now have a YouTube channel, an active Instagram account, and have done several FB Live segments.
Upleveling is oddly disorienting until you realize this is what you were born to do. Then you understand that there really are no mistakes, just learning opportunities, and no matter how steep the learning curve, what’s on the other side is usually worth it.
Doing the necessary hard work is really the only way to appreciate the magnitude of what you are able to manifest.
There is still time for you to join me at the retreat. We have the perfect size group for this kind of transformational work (20 people), but there is always room for you if this speaks to your heart.
Contact me if you are interested in attending or would like to host an event of your own and need a little nudge to make it happen. Click on the Retreat tab above for all the details.
Happy Labor Day, my friends!
Since our Get Stuff Done & Have Fun 21 Day Challenge ended in August, I thought we needed a new theme for September.
I got the idea of Cease Fire September from none other than our Get Stuff Done & Have Fun winner, Gilbert Higuera.
Like Gilbert, I’ve noticed we can all be a little critical of ourselves (and others) when things do not go as planned. So instead of bashing, trashing, guilting, or goading ourselves into submission or compliance, I say we call a cease fire and stop with the incessant shoulda, woulda, coulda’s.
Let’s just let things be as they are for the moment. No judgments.
Think neither good nor bad.
It is what it is.
That doesn’t mean that you can’t try your darnedest to change things or make things better. It just means that when change doesn’t happen quickly or easily or at all like you’ve planned, you don’t ridicule yourself for trying.
In my experience things seldom go the way I think they will or they should or I would like them to.
Sometimes they go even better!
But often times it’s just another day in paradise where I get to learn something new. Like how not to do something. Or how to tweak something just a smidge so it will work better next time.
Freaking out or abandoning the entire project does not contribute to the greater good. Mine or any one else’s. It just gives me further “proof” of my ineptitude at the expense of the innovative or creative thinking that prompted the idea in the first place.
Few things work right out of the gate. Despite what our culture tells us, overnight successes are usually years in the making.
I learn best by practicing and I practice best when I have partners. Since some of you have already been Getting Stuff Done & Having Fun with me in August, I thought you might want to continue on this journey in September with a new challenge.
If you haven’t done a challenge with me before, now is the time to start! You can participate as much or as little as you like.
The best way to do this is to join our Facebook group – Get Stuff Done & Have Fun. If you don’t use Facebook, then just follow along here or on Instagram at pjplautz.
I like to use a catchy phrase so I remember to practice what I preach at the precise moment I’m about to forget it. Something like, “Think twice and be nice,” might work for this month.
What do you think?
Share the ways you are practicing a little kindness, self-compassion, or neutrality in the comments below.
PS – The Tapping Into Your Wellpower Retreat is just 19 days away. If you want to get in on this amazing day away, you still have time. You can even get in on the Early Bird Pricing until September 8th. (We know you are busy and may have forgotten to register by September 1, so we are extending a grace period for registering at the special price through this Friday, September 8th. Call 1-888-336-3907 to register for #187799 or register online at www.eicc.edu/continuing-education/register/). If you want to know more about the retreat, click on the Tapping Into Your Wellpower Retreat tab at the top of the page.