|Here’s what I like about you.|
(It’s a long list, so settle in.)
You can do impossible things.
You prove that every day.
You’ve suffered setbacks
in your career and relationships
and learned how to course correct
and declare a do-over.
You’ve experienced unimaginable losses
and a devastating amount of shame.
You’ve lost a parent, a child,
a sibling, a spouse,
a friend, a pet,
or they’ve lost their way,
and somehow you’ve
found the faith to love
and offer support again.
You have taken risks
that nearly broke you
and still struggle with
for not knowing better.
You’ve been misunderstood
and yet you remain
open to what’s possible
even when it requires you
to risk it all again.
You do the necessary hard work.
You go in early,
and shovel snow
even when you know
no one else will attempt
to venture out.
You’ve bought more self-improvement courses
than you’ll ever complete,
but you don’t let this stop you
from seizing new opportunities
to invest in yourself
and build a better world.
Your body has betrayed you.
You may have experienced
a threat to your health
that brought you face to face
with your own mortality.
You’re getting older in spite of
your ageless attitude,
and inimitable shoe collection.
Somewhere along the line you started
working overtime instead of working out.
You occasionally overindulge
and binge watch entire seasons
of your favorite shows
all in one weekend
when you could be
clearing out the clutter,
attending a CrossFit class,
or preparing healthy meals
for the upcoming week.
But you believe Mondays
are like New Year’s Day,
so you begin again
and vow to do better.
You worry about the world
going to hell in a hand basket
and secretly suspect it’s
weapons of mass distraction
that will ultimately lead to our undoing.
You fear that folks have forgotten
how to talk to each other,
think for themselves,
follow their guidance,
or stand up for what they believe in.
So you make sure to vote
even though you know
your neighbor will vote differently.
You smile at strangers even though
they may interpret this small
act of kindness as stalking,
and you speak your truth
even if your voice shakes.
You are brave when bravery is required.
You are resilient even when you are bone tired.
You weave a spell with words that soothe the soul.
And you sing despite your reputation
for making up your own lyrics.
You are more than the sum of your parts –
even though all your parts are perfect in their imperfection.
You are always evolving.
You are still learning.
And so you remain a mystery –
even to yourself.
You see life differently.
You are wildly creative
which makes you
You hug trees,
flirt with babies,
let your dog occupy
the choicest spot on your bed,
let your cat commandeer your computer
(to allegedly manage her Instagram account),
and let baby goats jump on you during yoga.
You orchestrate the elements,
bend time, and defy gravity.
You feel deeply so you hurt easily.
You know intuitively so you act instinctively.
You keep these gifts hidden so you can
blend in and not out yourself as
the force of nature that you are.
Your curiosity keeps you questioning the status quo.
Your attraction to the extraordinary
summons you to sacred sites.
Your generosity makes you magnetic.
Your vulnerability makes you irresistible.
Your dancing makes you legendary.
Your sense of humor makes you the life of the party…
should you ever stray from the sanctuary
of your studio, library, garden, or kitchen.
You bloom where you are planted.
You are a sensual creature who insists on honesty
wherever you can find it.
You are a meaning maker
with an appetite for adventure.
You are a citizen of the world,
a renegade, a revolutionary,
a rebel with a most compelling cause.
You are a visionary, a shapeshifter, a truth teller,
a way shower, and a light worker.
You are grounded in this world
but not exactly of it.
You are a Spark of the Divine.
Made up of stardust and moonbeams, you are.
You continue to surprise and delight.
Because of that, I’m all in.
I’m devoted to helping you get
from where you are now to where you want to go.
Because I want more for you than you dare to want for yourself.
And partnering with people I adore as much as I do you
is what I’m most grateful for thisThanksgiving.
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For as long as I can remember, I have loved all things “woo-woo.”
From feathers to sticks and stones to drums to oracle cards to divination guides, I was fascinated with how these tools could transform an ordinary experience into an extraordinary one.
And for almost as long, I’ve felt a sense of “poo-poo” about incorporating these tools in my professional work. Like they aren’t “legit”. “They shouldn’t be taken seriously.” “I should just consider them a hobby or something I entertain friends with.”
But not using them disrespects the gift. Because you see, these transformational tools are my medicine.
Unfortunately, the creative gifts we unapologetically accept when we are young are the first to be sacrificed on the alter of adulthood.
It took me years to embrace my creativity and unique way of knowing as the incredible gift it is. I can finally acknowledge how incorporating this supports my health and well-being in ways that have just as much to do with the bottom line as meeting a sales quota.
It has taken me even longer to see that my decades in the desert struggling in silence and solitude to come to terms with my quirky way of seeing the world and experiencing life were actually preparing me for the journey I’m now on. This shamanic adventure is one that demands that I reclaim the gifts I abandoned in my misguided attempt to blend in with the conventional crowd.
We are wired to want to belong. We are social creatures who need community. And with that comes the need for approval, acknowledgement, achievement, and evidence that we are okay.
So we sometimes give up what we know to be true about ourselves in order to fit in with everyone else.
If you’re not the average bear or color outside the lines or move to the beat of a different drummer or are a free-spirit (as I was often called), life can be more challenging.
But it can also be extraordinary.
We all have unique gifts. Whether we’ve honored them or abandoned them in the past, they are needed now.
It is time to excavate them from wherever they may be hiding and share them with a world that hungers for human decency, compassion, understanding, insight, consciousness, forgiveness, light, and love.
If that requires me to bring out my drum and singing bowls, my crystals and oracle cards, my talking sticks, flower essences, spirit animals, and Divine Assistance Team, then so be it.
Maybe when I embrace my woo, you will embrace yours too.
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April can be a very taxing time of year in the US.
Whether you pay taxes quarterly or yearly, get money back or have to pay money in, there is a general reckoning that always leaves me feeling, well, taxed.
I know it doesn’t have to be that way.
Yet once the dreadful day has come and gone, taking a good chunk of change with it, I forget how urgent and uncomfortable it is to account for it all.
This year I decided to take matters into my own hands. And since writing is what I generally do with my hands, I’m writing my way to a new, empowering money story.
I invite you to do the same.
Last month I participated in an online Millionaire Mindset Challenge that was nothing short of miraculous. The energy of the creative community was contagious, the possibilities endless, and the miracles multiplied by our collective witnessing of them.
So many of my friends asked me about it that I decided to create my own version of it called Pennies From Heaven.
I’m changing up the rules a bit to give you a little more time to ponder your potential and adding a few Angel Investors to guide you to your most magnificent manifestations.
Because your mind can’t distinguish between what’s real and what’s vividly imagined, you’re going to conjure up the most creative scenarios you can for experiencing the kind of wealth and abundance you’ve only dreamed about thus far.
Whether you like it or not, you are experiencing the precise level of abundance you can comfortably handle at the moment. What??? Can that be true?
Let me just speculate and suggest you may have a few money hang-ups that are getting in the way of experiencing the kind of wealth and abundance you desire.
Whether these be unspoken vows, limiting beliefs, or a general distrust that the Universe is conspiring on your behalf, it might be worth looking at your money story and see if you can allow yourself to play your way to prosperity.
“Who’s got time for fun and games?” you ask.
Well, I hope you do! I, for one, could definitely use a little more levity in my life.
After suffering in silence and solitude for decades, I’ve discovered the key to my success is surrounding myself with wise and witty friends who are curious, open to new experiences, and can see things from a different perspective than I can. If I’m going to tackle a touch topic like money, I’d prefer to do it with my tribe.
Consider this your invitation to hop on board the Pennies From Heaven money miracle manifestation train. Even if no actual money shows up during the game, the insights you gain into your money story will set the stage for future windfalls.
Look at it this way. If you were expecting a baby, pursuing a degree, directing a movie, or taking a vacation, you’d prepare for it, right? You’d plan for a nursery, register for classes, hire some actors, or make travel arrangements.
The same applies to increasing your income. You may say you want more money, but if you can’t manage what you have now, how will you successfully manage more?
Pennies From Heaven is your practice field.
If you’d like to play along, just write “Show Me the Money!” in the comments below. The game will be played through our Pennies From Heaven Facebook group, so if you’re on Facebook, just ask to join the group and I’ll add you.
If you’ve already mastered money and want to look at relationships, health, or any other area of your life, the same rules of the game apply. I’d love for you to join me and play your way to whatever you most desire.
Love is in the air.
At least that’s what card companies, chocolate factories, and flower shops would have us believe around this time of year.
Of all things to believe in, love is certainly a noble and worthy cause.
As someone who has never been married and spent my fair share of Valentine’s Days celebrating the unconditional love of my dogs, I could give you a million reasons why romantic love is overrated.
But I won’t.
Because as cliche as it sounds, love makes the world go around.
The problem is not with love.
It’s with our limited view of what it should look like, feel like, or how and when it should show up in our lives.
If you are like me and Hozier, “I fall in love just a little, oh a little bit, every day with someone new.” Or something.
Don’t get me wrong. I love the one I am with. Because of that, my cup runneth over with love..
So I am looking to fall in love just a little bit every day with someone new because there are so many people in need of love. No one may have noticed the tiny tears in a person’s heart. No one may have noticed the way a person is lovable, adorable, vulnerable, creative, generous, surprising, kind, or appears to be broken.
When I do, I let my love open the door.
Whether that be through a smile, a reassuring word, a gentle touch, or just keeping my mouth shut when I might be tempted to criticize or judge. Often times these things can mean more than diamonds, flowers, candy, or over-the-top declarations of love.
And I don’t limit myself to people.
I especially love trees and have no shame in wrapping my arms around their trunks whenever I have the chance.
And, oh, I do love my animals.
I love ideas.
I love art and music and poetry and delicious food.
I love to sleep.
I love my snow pants because they allow me to be warm and comfy in winter weather. And they create a softer landing when I fall off my skis.
I love creating something out of nothing and transforming the ordinary into the extraordinary.
None of that can happen without love.
So I will continue to be a hopeful romantic and believe in love and all the ways it dares to shows up in the world against all odds.
And I will send a whole heart full of love to you.
P.S. I would love to know what you love and what songs about love you love. Please add your playlist of love songs in the comments below.
Since the snow continues to accumulate here in Iowa I thought I would try my luck at skiing on Saturday. My niece wanted to ski and Bob’s nephew wanted to snowboard and because they still think of me as the hip and crazy aunt who will try anything, I could not disappoint them.
I’m not really sure why I thought I could ski since I haven’t been on skis in over 20 years and I’ve never once had a lesson. Maybe it’s the subliminal messages the Winter Olympics athletes are sending us to get out and act like an Olympian in our own lives.
By attempting to ski I learned about myself, fear, fun, and falling down. As much as I like to think I’m able to listen to my body’s wisdom, my head hijacks whatever is attempting to communicate through my extremities at the first sign of danger.
In my case, this happened as soon as I slid by boots into the skis and attempted to maneuver over to the bunny hill. The ability to put one foot in front of the other without falling over suddenly became a monumental task.
“What was I thinking?” became the only thing I was thinking. Until I fell and then, “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!” became the predominant thought.
“Take off your skis!” Kat advised as I pondered how my knees and feet might work in unison with skis pointed in opposite directions.
“You can do it!” Brad encouraged.
And I did.
After a successful run down “Rookie’s Ridge“, I moved on to the “green” hill where I wiped out a couple of times and skied right into a snowbank.
I think it takes most people 3-5 minutes to ski that slope. I’m pretty sure it took me 35.
“Come on, Pen! Try going a little faster,” the young ones quipped. It sure seemed like I was moving at top speed when I skied into the snow bank.
Luckily Kat and Brad were more patient than I ever expected them to be. They even acted like they knew me when I came careening into the chairlift area.
Did I have a fabulous time? A humbling time would be more like it.
In my mind, I still believe I’m their age. It always shocks me when my body reminds me this is no longer the case.
But courage begets courage. I’m not sure I would have even agreed to try this had I not just started a mastermind group called Practicing Everyday Alchemy and been buoyed by the support and faith of a fearless group of amazing alchemists.
Every Olympian has an entire team behind them encouraging, supporting, training, and seeing them through their toughest and most glorious moments. Why wouldn’t I put a similar support system in place when I take my leap into the unknown?
Having just read an incredibly insightful book by Shawn Achor called Big Potential, I wouldn’t attempt anything worthwhile without assembling a star system that allows me to not only to tap into my potential, but the bigger potential of everyone in the group.
It’s often the tiniest of actions that catapult us out of our comfort zone and into what I call our evolutionary zone. Sometimes it’s heading to the slopes. Other times it’s passing on dessert or an alcoholic beverage. It could even be cleaning out a room in order to create some breathing space.
What courageous acts – big or small – have you taken lately?
Who makes up your star support system and allows you to shine your light in new and adventurous ways?
Please share in the comments below so we can celebrate your moments of magnificence with you and those who made it possible for you!
As any of you who have been around small children know, kids are curious. Their favorite question is “why?” Whatever answer you provide inevitably leads to another question.
They beg for you to “tell me more” regardless of how ready, willing, and able you are to dig deep into the subject of their inquiry.
Over time their questions may wear you down and you may tend to treat all questions as irritants rather than clues that unlock the great mysteries in life.
Questions like, “How much?” ,”By when?”, “Where in the world?”, and “What the heck?” often hint at answers that may be just as tiresome as the questions.
As a naturally curious type and a firm believer that the right questions asked at the right time can change your life, I invite you to not give up on questions. (In my last post, I asked you a whole bunch of them!)
Just keep it simple and start with why.
If you are making New Year’s Resolutions this year, why do you want your life to be different?
I’m sure you have a compelling answer. I’m also sure it’s not the first one you will come up with.
If you stay as persistent as a child and let one answer lead to another question, then you might discover why it really matters.
And then you are on to something.
The reason most resolutions fail is not because you don’t have the discipline, willpower, wisdom, strategy, or support to achieve them. The real reason resolutions fail is because you don’t have a clear and compelling reason to work through the challenges that will present themselves as part of your journey.
What you’re resolving to do is difficult. It’s the reason you haven’t achieved or been able to sustain your success before. So what’s different this time?
If nothing has changed and you’re not willing to do anything different, then don’t waste your time making the resolution. It just leaves you feeling bad about yourself.
But if you are willing to do something different, whether that be to hire a coach, take a class, or join a support group, then write your goal down and take at least ten minutes to imagine what it would feel like to achieve it.
Then grab a pen and paper and write this down at the top of the page: THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT & I WILL DEFINITELY SUCCEED BECAUSE. And then list at least 10 reasons it is different and why you will most definitely succeed.
I recently did this and came up with 25 reasons I will be able to create a thriving business doing what I love, with people in love, in places I love. And let me tell you, it was one of the most empowering things I’ve done.
I got the idea from Mike Dooley’s book, Playing the Matrix, where he talks about creating results based on how you want to feel instead of focusing on what he calls the “cursed hows” and attaching to the results of getting what you think you want.
If you are resolving to be a better version of yourself in 2018, give yourself a boost by writing down the reasons you will succeed. This is something you can look back on any time you are tempted to give up.
Here are a few of the things on my THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT & I WILL DEFINITELY SUCCEED BECAUSE list. I hope this helps you jump start your list:
#1 – I’ve prepared for it and have a strategy. I’ve invested an incredible amount of time, money, and resources to make this happen. I’ve taken lots of baby steps, tested the market, and had consistent, small successes and epic failures.
#2 – It has become my #1 priority. I have given up many things so I can spend time building my business. I invest any extra time I have and money I make back into my training so I can work with great coaches, be a part of a supportive community, and continue mastering new technologies. I follow my fascination and never stop learning.
#3 – I get by with a little help from my friends. I have been actively building my community for several years. I now have an amazing tribe of peers, mentors, and clients who do great work and are willing to collaborate, support, participate, and play along.
#4 – I’m not attached to the specifics of how it needs to happen. I step into the flow of my life and focus on feeling good, staying healthy, being creative, trying new things, doing things that make me feel alive and energized. Of course, I’d love for this to yield certain results, but I’m not so focused on those results that I limit myself or miss even better opportunities. I celebrate the smallest successes as I keep the big picture in mind.
#5 – I show up. Every single day I take one small step in the direction of my dream. I stopped hiding. I shed my invisibility cloak so I can do the things that scare me (like make a lot of videos), and keep putting myself out there in fun and creative ways.
#6 – I live in a loving and abundant universe. I am connected to source energy. The only lack is a lack of imagination. My life supports me, my tribe has my back, and the universe conspires on my behalf. I’m grateful to get to do this work.
#7 – I own my throne. I stand in my power and attract fabulous clients, co-creators, friends, mentors, opportunities. I’m done apologizing. I want what I want. This is who I am. These are my gifts. This is what I charge. This is how I work. This is the time I have available.
#8 – There is enough for everyone. My success inspires others. My fearlessness, my failures, and my willingness to take action encourage others. We’re all in this together.
#9 – I fire on all cylinders – or all 7 chakras, as I prefer to say. I am grounded in my body as well as open to spiritual assistance and worldly wisdom. I love to think and create and spend my time with heady stuff. That makes it tempting to ignore my body. I’ve learned to embody and bring my ideas into my body and get grounded. When I eat healthy foods, get outside in the sunshine and play with the dogs, and get some body work when I need it, everything goes much smoother.
#10 – I honor my lineage. I stand on the shoulders of giants. I value the teachers, mentors, coaches, shamans, spiritual teachers, and students I’ve had the good fortune to work with. I honor them by continuing their work in my unique way and value all of us by charging enough that I can support my business and continue to share the message.
Here’s to you being wildly successful in 2018.
I’d love to see your list and learn about your dreams for the New Year. Please leave your comments below.
For someone who is not real big on the holidays, I absolutely adore these days between Christmas and New Year’s Day. Part of it is because I work full-time at a college and, like our students, we get these glorious days off before starting full steam ahead again in January.
The other part is I happen to believe there is something magical about these days. Because they are the last days not just of the month or the quarter but the whole year, people tend to write them off as an insignificant segue into start of a New Year.
But I know better.
It’s as if these days have a secret they will share only with those who can get quiet enough to listen and be still enough to notice.
While many people are bustling about returning items, reconnecting with family and friends, or trying to check off the last few items on their yearly to do list, I’ve been quietly calling the pieces of myself back home in order to acknowledge all the adventures I’ve had during this trip around the sun.
Before I even begin thinking about what I want to create in the New Year I ask myself a series of questions about the current year. The answers I get inform my direction and my intentions for the upcoming year.
I wanted to share them with you as a way to consider what 2017 has meant to you. You may want to sit with them, answer the ones that feel most in need of answering, skip those that don’t make sense for you, or make up your own.
After allowing my answers to these questions to reveal themselves to me, I take out a piece of paper and put a big plus sign on one half of the page and a big minus sign on the other. Armed with the insights from this year, I can clearly articulate what I want more of and less of in the New Year.
Because this is a process and the questions require time to marinate, I first read through them and let them seep into my psyche before attempting to answer them. Then I grab a pen and let the answers come to me.
By about Sunday I’ll be able to collect my responses and apply the perspective they afford to the New Year. On Monday I’ll spend some time welcoming 2018 and contemplating the choices ahead of me. I’ll Name & Claim what I intend to create and then release that intention into the wild.
I share this with you in hopes that these questions might help you find some clarity and direction in the New Year. Maybe you can ask some of these questions of your family and friends at a New Year’s Eve gathering?
May you savor these last days of 2017 as they share their secrets with you.
Baby Steps & Best Advice
- Where did the smallest step produce the biggest result?
- What was the best advice you were given this year?
- Who shared it with you or how did it find its way to you?
- How aware of your body were you throughout the year?
- Did you feel connected to your body and allow yourself to feel the pleasure of being in a body or did you disconnect and spend the majority of time in your head?
- Did you have any health challenges or achieve any health or fitness goals?
- What books, movies, music, conversations, trips, trainings, or classes forever changed the way you think, feel, see, or experience life?
- What places provided you with the most peace or inspiration, the best working environment, the most creative conversations, the most nutritious and delicious food and drinks, incredibly beauty, or fascinating people?
- Where did you love hanging out and with whom?
Fears & Thrills
- What was the scariest thing you did this year?
- How did you feel once you faced your fear?
- What was the most thrilling thing you did, said, felt, or experienced this year?
- What made you feel most alive?
- What caused you the most pain or regret?
Gadgets & Gizmos
- What new technology did you master that catapulted your business or personal life forward?
- What products, apps, or life hacks made your life easier, more organized, or more fun?
- What purchased created the most joy and/or frustration as you worked through the learning curve?
- When and how were your gifts recognized and appreciated this year? (By you and others.)
- When did you need to activate your superpowers and how did you do so?
- Was there a particularly painful lesson that held an exquisite gift for you?
- When did you have to practice patience and learn to move at the pace of grace?
Health & Well-Being
- What creative, meditative, fitness, or health practices did you begin that made a noticeable difference in the quality of your life?
- What new foods or drinks did you discover this year that you now can’t live without?
- What really nourished you? (Mind, body, and spirit)
- What health care practitioners offered you the most comfort or provided you with the most helpful information necessary to achieve your optimal health and well-being?
- Were there any new arrivals in your home? (Pets, people, plants, furniture, etc.)
- Were there any departures in your household or family circle?
- Did you move or add on to your existing home or somehow alter your living arrangements?
Livelihood & Creativity
- Did you start a new adventure, begin a new business, retire, or leave an old career to start something new this year?
- Who was on your dream team? What collaborations or partnerships gave you the most joy and brought about unexpected or innovative results?
- Who needed to be fired from your life? What relationships created chaos, unnecessary drama, miscommunications, or major meltdowns?
- Where did you create something amazing out of nothing?
- Where did you take “massive imperfect action” as my coach likes to call it?
- What crazy idea captured your attention and refused to let go until you took action? What happened next?
- Where did you lose track of time and fall into the flow of doing what you love?
- How did money show up in your life this year?
- Did you experience any money miracles or windfalls?
- When did you feel especially abundant? What thoughts, practices, purchases, or actions contributed to that?
- When did you feel constricted or tight about money? What thoughts, practices, purchases, or actions contributed to that?
- Did you read any books, attend any seminars, work with any financial wizards or coaches who helped shift your mindset around money?
- Who walked into your life this year? How did their presence impact what’s possible for you?
- Who walked out of your life this year? How did their absence create more presence for you?
- Who do you long for? Who is missing in your world?
- What relationships shifted or transitioned as you changed and grew?
- Where was your love most needed and how easy was it for you to offer it up?
- Who surprised you with their unwavering support and love? Who disappointed you?
- Where did you go this year and how did you get there?
- Did you travel for business, for pleasure, out of obligation, and/or because it was your soul’s calling?
- Who did you meet in your travels?
- What did you see?
- How did it change you?
- How did God/the Universe/the Great Creator/Divine Feminine or Masculine reveal itself to you? How did you respond?
- Were any of the answers you were seeking hiding in plain sight?
- What was lost? What was found?
- When did you feel closest to God or Source energy?
- What was surprised you most this year?
- How did this surprise rearrange your reality?
- What unlikely sources of support, funding, friendship, or freedom showed up for you?
- How did world events impact your actions?
- Did these events alter your opinion of humanity or change the way you view the world or the future of the planet?
- Did these events catalyze you to join a movement, stage a protest, offer aid or assistance to those in need?
If you had to sum up the year in 6 words, those words would be:
___________ _____________ _____________ ______________ _______________ _____________
* Mine would be: You can’t make this stuff up. Really, it was that kind of year! Totally amazing.
Top 10 Takeaways from the year? List them here!
I’d love for you to share any aha’s or epiphanies that may arise from these questions in the comments below.
I just got back from spending a few days in Boston with my tribe of transformational coaches and creatives. I’ve only been a Rockstar on a Mission since March and a Wildflower since September but I barely recognize the quiet, questioning version of me who wondered whether investing in these coaching communities could catapult me out of my comfort zone and into my contribution zone.
I know now it was the only thing that could.
I’ve spent years lost in cyberspace, investing in online programs that promised all kinds of incredible results from the comfort of my couch. I eagerly downloaded all the modules and organized them in binders and convinced myself that doing that was the same as doing the actual work.
You have to change out of your pajamas, take a shower, and get out and meet people if you intend to save the world. Because you just can’t do it in isolation.
The evening before I invested what seemed like my life’s savings to become a Rockstar, I cataloged every single program I had invested in for the last 30 years. As impressive as this list was in length and depth, I became painfully aware that I’d kept most of those experiences and the wisdom they afforded locked in a virtual vault somewhere inside of me.
One I had apparently lost the combination to.
I realized my success could only come from cracking the code and sharing what was inside instead of keeping this treasure tucked away.
It also meant shedding the safety of my invisibility cloak and showing up in full Queen regalia, ready to Own My Throne.
As soon as I stepped into my Rockstar role, I began to crack the code. I gave myself one year to play full out with a group of others committed to doing the same.
We would leave no stone unturned as we dived deeply into the beliefs and stories surrounding our resistance, fears, and ability to move forward.
It hasn’t been easy. It hasn’t been pretty. And it certainly has not been for the faint of heart. It has taken a lot of time, money, and, in my case, airplane tickets to far away places.
But eight months into it, I’ve done things with my tribes that I could have never done on my own. I’ve led my own Tapping Into Your Wellpower retreat, I’ve led tapping circles at other retreats, I’ve led my team on a scavenger hunt at the Natick Mall, and I’ve gone to the pyramids of Teotihuacan where I learned sacred ceremonies to harness air, water, earth, and fire. I have spread my message from coast to coast and met shamans, healers, artists, mentors, coaches, and collaborators of every kind.
I share this not to boast but to tell you if you want to change the world (by first changing yourself), you can.
You just can’t do it alone.
And frankly, why would you want to?
There are so many fascinating people who have done what you want to do. Learn from them. Take advantage of the their vantage point – even if they are only a few steps ahead of you. Study what works and what doesn’t. Give yourself the gift of their guidance even as you chart your own course.
And by all means, start before you are ready. You’ve heard me say this before but it’s worth repeating.
There will always be a hundred things you think you need to know or do or accomplish before you start.
You’re scared. Believe me, I know.
The truth is you can’t know or do or accomplish many of those things that loom large until you start. You can’t fully appreciate how Facebook Live works until you do a Facebook Live broadcast. You can’t know how you will host a retreat until you host a retreat.
What do you want to do by when?
Set a date.
Tell the world.
Then get to work.
Let the goal pull you forward instead of allowing your fears to hold you back. Let the excitement of publicly committing to your goal burn through your fears and be the catalyst for taking easily executable action steps. These steps will help you establish a steady rhythm of fear-busting moves that combat analysis paralysis.
And let me share one more little secret. Getting there can be as thrilling as arriving. It’s all about the journey, the climb, the road to redemption.
When I announced my Tapping Into Your Wellpower Retreat I had no idea who would come, how I would coordinate all the moving parts, or what I would offer as a follow-up. I only knew I was committed to doing whatever it took to make it the best retreat I could.
Because I had enrolled in a Retreat Blueprint program, I had an idea of what was necessary to run a successful retreat. But because I had never actually run one myself, I had to become a marketing machine, an event planner, a customer service rep, and anything else that was required. As if by magic, becoming all that activated my super-powers.
Who you become along the way determines how deeply and richly you can celebrate once you reach your destination and how confidently you continue to move forward.
When my retreat went off without a hitch, I celebrated like it was 1999. And when no one was watching, I danced around my house to my favorite celebration song. And then I headed to Mexico to embark on a scary, new, life-changing adventure.
So please, as Goethe suggests, “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”
I’d love to hear about the magic you are conjuring up. Please let me know in the comments below so I can cheer you on.
Our Tapping Into Your Wellpower Retreat is just 9 days away! I’m so excited to be spending a day at the Rickert Lodge in Bellevue with such fabulous new friends.
It takes courage to commit to spending a day doing a deep dive into those areas where most people are content to stay where it’s numbingly comfortable.
Up until now, I’ve attended retreats. Lots of them. This time I’ll be leading one.
It’s a gigantic leap but one I’ve been preparing for all summer. I’m thrilled to put my spin on the lessons I’ve learned from hanging out with some of the best teachers in some the world’s most beautiful places.
I have grand plans to host future retreats in the places dearest to my heart like Santa Fe, St. George, and Monterey. But for my first go round, it makes sense to stay local and start small. I’ll get through 1 day and work my way up to a week.
I couldn’t ask for a lovelier setting than the Rickert Lodge in Bellevue, Iowa. It’s close to home but far enough away from my normal work environment that it feels like a get-away.
The biggest challenge has been to pick just one theme for the day. I remind myself it has taken me a lifetime to integrate the various teachings and experiences I’ve had. As tempted as I may be to throw a little bit of a lot of things into the ring, the last thing I want to do is overwhelm someone coming to me in search of tranquility.
So I will teach something I love (tapping/EFT) that I know can make a profound difference in the lives of others in a very short time.
Today I said to a co-worker, “This is what it feels like to realize a dream.”
And remarkably it feels like another day in paradise. A day where dozens of creative decisions and compromises must be made, people surprise or delight me, others challenge me, and the dogs still demand a walk. (Because they know the walk puts it all in perspective.)
This is the beauty of stepping into your well of power and owning your throne. It forces you to be a better version of yourself. Putting together this retreat has proven the Goethe quote to be true.
“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. Whatever you think you can do, or believe you can do, begin it. Action has magic, power and grace.”
All kinds of things came into alignment as soon as I committed to hold the retreat. I have become more of a business person than I ever thought possible for a creatively quirky individual. Incredibly, I now have a YouTube channel, an active Instagram account, and have done several FB Live segments.
Upleveling is oddly disorienting until you realize this is what you were born to do. Then you understand that there really are no mistakes, just learning opportunities, and no matter how steep the learning curve, what’s on the other side is usually worth it.
Doing the necessary hard work is really the only way to appreciate the magnitude of what you are able to manifest.
There is still time for you to join me at the retreat. We have the perfect size group for this kind of transformational work (20 people), but there is always room for you if this speaks to your heart.
Contact me if you are interested in attending or would like to host an event of your own and need a little nudge to make it happen. Click on the Retreat tab above for all the details.
Happy Labor Day, my friends!
Since our Get Stuff Done & Have Fun 21 Day Challenge ended in August, I thought we needed a new theme for September.
I got the idea of Cease Fire September from none other than our Get Stuff Done & Have Fun winner, Gilbert Higuera.
Like Gilbert, I’ve noticed we can all be a little critical of ourselves (and others) when things do not go as planned. So instead of bashing, trashing, guilting, or goading ourselves into submission or compliance, I say we call a cease fire and stop with the incessant shoulda, woulda, coulda’s.
Let’s just let things be as they are for the moment. No judgments.
Think neither good nor bad.
It is what it is.
That doesn’t mean that you can’t try your darnedest to change things or make things better. It just means that when change doesn’t happen quickly or easily or at all like you’ve planned, you don’t ridicule yourself for trying.
In my experience things seldom go the way I think they will or they should or I would like them to.
Sometimes they go even better!
But often times it’s just another day in paradise where I get to learn something new. Like how not to do something. Or how to tweak something just a smidge so it will work better next time.
Freaking out or abandoning the entire project does not contribute to the greater good. Mine or any one else’s. It just gives me further “proof” of my ineptitude at the expense of the innovative or creative thinking that prompted the idea in the first place.
Few things work right out of the gate. Despite what our culture tells us, overnight successes are usually years in the making.
I learn best by practicing and I practice best when I have partners. Since some of you have already been Getting Stuff Done & Having Fun with me in August, I thought you might want to continue on this journey in September with a new challenge.
If you haven’t done a challenge with me before, now is the time to start! You can participate as much or as little as you like.
The best way to do this is to join our Facebook group – Get Stuff Done & Have Fun. If you don’t use Facebook, then just follow along here or on Instagram at pjplautz.
I like to use a catchy phrase so I remember to practice what I preach at the precise moment I’m about to forget it. Something like, “Think twice and be nice,” might work for this month.
What do you think?
Share the ways you are practicing a little kindness, self-compassion, or neutrality in the comments below.
PS – The Tapping Into Your Wellpower Retreat is just 19 days away. If you want to get in on this amazing day away, you still have time. You can even get in on the Early Bird Pricing until September 8th. (We know you are busy and may have forgotten to register by September 1, so we are extending a grace period for registering at the special price through this Friday, September 8th. Call 1-888-336-3907 to register for #187799 or register online at www.eicc.edu/continuing-education/register/). If you want to know more about the retreat, click on the Tapping Into Your Wellpower Retreat tab at the top of the page.