Congratulations for sticking with me through the whole alphabet plan in the Here to the New Year in Good Cheer challenge. As you know, each day presents its own challenges. Since you can’t always depend on Plan A or even Plan B, you now have a whole alphabet plan in your arsenal.
But it doesn’t end here.
We’ve got one week left and this is when things can get tricky. It’s like you’ve been on this long road trip and you’re mere miles away from home when suddenly your car breaks down, you get pulled over for speeding, or you’re redirected on a detour that turns your minutes from home into hours.
How you handle this determines how you view the entire journey as well as how you approach future adventures.
Remember, you are equal to the challenge. You wouldn’t give up earlier in the challenge. Do not give up now. Don’t let fatigue or perceived failure stop you now. Put one foot in front of the other. You’ve got this, my friend.
Even if there are no hurdles left to jump and you plan to coast into the New Year without much thought, I’m asking you to give more.
This week reminds me of the Tibetan Buddhist concept of the bardo – an intermediate time between death and rebirth. So much depends on this week.
Pay particular attention to your thoughts and actions. Act with intention and do with deliberation.
If you can take the time and make the space to review your year, you’ll be much more likely to see the patterns, the people, and the places that impacted your well-being in the last twelve months. Then you can consciously choose whether you want to include them in the next twelve.
“Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” – Sir Winston Churchill
Acknowledge what went well and what didn’t. What did you learn and how can you leverage that in the New Year? What do you want and why do you want it? I mean really truly want and are willing to disrupt life as you know it to get, not those things you say you want every year but never quite get.
I’m not interested in resolutions that will be broken by 12:15am on 1/1/17. Resolutions seldom stick. We need “goals with soul” as Danielle Laporte calls them.
I’m interested in those things you want to create, do, be, or have that will keep you up at night dreaming and scheming and planning and collaborating until it comes to fruition.
And that starts with a little clarity.
This week I’ll be sharing some of the templates I use to do my Year In Review. Hopefully they will help you start thinking about what’s possible for you in 2017.
Regardless of how you’ve ended years in the past, this year I want you to finish strong. As they say, “It ain’t over, til it’s over.”
Use this week to amplify your output. You know how you get super productive the day before you leave for an Alaskan cruise, Hawaiian vacation, or weekend getaway? This is the time to tie up loose ends, anchor out of control emotions, make things right in your relationships, and take care of any business you don’t want to drag into the New Year.
You are beginning Week 52 of 52 for 2016. What would it take to make it your best one so far? Only you can define what that means to you.
Let me know in the comments below what you would like to accomplish this week so you can go into the New Year in Good Cheer – especially if that is to just have fun and completely relax because you’ve been crazy busy all year.
P.S. Do you need a notebook to write down your responses? If so, I’ve got one for you. Leave your information below and I’ll send a Resolve to Evolvenotebook out to you in time for the New Year. Your information is safe with me.
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We’re back with the Here to the New Year in Good Cheer challenge and “J” joins the alphabet plan of juxtaposingjangled nerves and jarred emotions with joy.
I hope your intermission was rejuvenating and you were able to juggle all the jobs that jabbered for your attention. A perfectly timed snowfall made mine justjubilant.
It was my puppy Ruby’s first experience with snow and needless to say, she was jolly by golly. She jogged, jerked, jilted, jigged, jagged, jumbled, jostled, jolted, jutted, and jammed her way through the snow jungle before her.
She justifiably jeered at any attempt to distract her from judging where the snowballs would land so she could jockey for position before our other dog Jake (aka John Jacob Jingleheimer Schmidt)jumped in on the action. It was like a jumbo jamboree of chaos and confusion. Just where did that snowball jet to before disappearing?
How does this jive with your holiday happiness? Well, try not to get all jacked up and let your jingles get all jangled and jeopardize the juiciness just waiting for you to slip into like a jeweled jacket.
Take a jaunt to your favorite tea, coffee, or cocoa joint to jump-start your journey rocking around the Christmas tree. (Just like me and Bob in this JibJab card.)
I’d love for you to share something that brings you joy in the comments below. Or you can share your favorite knock-knock joke as a warm up for Plan “K” tomorrow.
Today’s challenge, should you choose to accept it, is to take 5-15 minutes and make a list of what you’d like to get done in the next 30 days. Whether it is realistic or not, write it down.
Now I am not asking you to do anything on your list today. I’m just asking you to make a list. A wouldn’t-it-be-nice if … list.
The list will be your blueprint for the next month. It will give you clues as to what’s clamoring for your attention, what matters to you, what you feel obligated to, and what just might make you feel good.
These are the things that randomly roam around your consciousness and have the potential to terrorize you just when you’re about to relax and feel good about what you’ve already accomplished.
Don’t censor yourself as you make your list. Let anything and everything make an appearance on your list. It’s for your eyes only, so be generous with your desires.
Don’t worry about the details of how you can make whatever you write down happen. Just write it down.
Okay, have fun! And let me know if you have questions or, better yet, breakthroughs!
No Matter What Game …. find out how you can play below post.
G: Your mentioned in your last post “I currently have 5 books begging to be birthed”. Give us a taste of each book.
P: The theme that runs throughout all my books is the idea of “Lost & Found“. I believe we need to get lost before we can truly find ourselves, our sidekicks, and our way in the world.
As cliché as it sounds, it really is the journey, the climb, the adventure that makes the man or woman. We need to set out on our grand adventures with the best of intentions so when we discover the road from here to there is under construction, we can see these detours for what they really are. Divinely orchestrated and unexpected side trips where we encounter the people, places, and experiences we need for our character (and stories) to emerge. Joseph Campbell called this the hero’s journey.
One of my favorite phrases is part of a longer quote by J.R.R. Tolkien, “Not all who wander are lost.” That would be the title of choice for my stories about Santa Fe and why it attracts so many people who feel exiled from other places.
Another book about living the creative life in the Land of Enchantment would be The Dog, The Desert, and the Days that Define a Life. My dog Malcolm and I had the most extraordinary adventures involving red racers, bulls, javelinas, hawks and a wide variety of other dogs as we hiked/housesat/dogsat our way through Santa Fe.
I particularly like stories of pilgrimages and hikes; works that explore inner as well as outer journeys. I was thrilled to see Cheryl Strayed’s book “Wild” and Bill Bryson’s book, “A Walk in the Woods” become movies. I also love books and movies about the Camino De Santiago. I especially enjoyed The Way with Martin Sheen.
At the same time I’m concerned the market will be saturated with these walking stories before I have the chance to write mine.
The Lost Ladies of Cumbria is about a week long hiking trip with poet David Whyte through the Lake District told from the perspective of seven middle-aged women. The circumstances that brought each of us to that place and that time are themes I think many women at midlife can relate to.
We often hear about men’s midlife crises, but women’s stories have largely been left untold. (Except for Stella.) This book gives those stories a voice while weaving in the incredible poetry and wisdom of a gifted poet.
I’d love to create a day book called A Penny for Your Thoughts which could be a compilation of blog posts and the Midlife Manifesto I crafted a few years ago.
And last but not least, I plan to turn a class I designed and taught 11 years ago called Read It & Leap! into an ebook that ideally you will be able to download on February 29, 2016. Yes, approximately three Leap Days after I originally conceived of the idea, I’d like to finally birth this baby. Long labor, yes?
So, there you have it. The books demanding I write them into existence. Which one would you like to read first? Let me know in the comments below.
Follow along or play the No Matter What Game weekdays at www.midlifemacgyver.com. The world’s best coach Gillian sends me a prompt each weekday and I post a response no matter what. You are welcome to use the same prompt and record your answers in a private journal, share with a group, or even better, share in the comments below! If you’d prefer to have your own prompts sent just to you, contact Gillian at https://www.facebook.com/gillianpearcecoach.
Birthdays are like New Year’s Day. They are an opportunity to wipe the slate clean and begin again, with more experience, courage, and hard won wisdom.
This year I am celebrating the beginning of my new year in the most unlikely of places, a remote fishing village on the Canadian border where snow is forecast for tomorrow. No part of it was my idea. Bermuda was my idea. But I’ll take any chance I get to put myself in front of a body of water, plug in my laptop, open a vein and let the words pour out.
This past year has been an intense one for me. Although I am impressed by what can happen when I consistently put my mind, energy, and resources behind an idea, I’m also ready for some rest and reflection. What better place to do that than in a rustic cabin where freezing rain and the threat of snow hamper any ideas of hiking?
The last time I was here, I was not a happy camper. I was experiencing hormonal shifts that were causing mild panic attacks, brain fog, mood swings, and general irritability.
What I didn’t know then but am acutely aware of now is even though you are told it’s just part of getting older and you’ll have to learn to live with it, it isn’t and you don’t. It’s just that most people don’t talk about it and therefore don’t understand there are plenty of things you can do to feel better. Suffering in silence is not one of them.
The past year for me has been all about getting my groove back and helping as many people as I can do the same. So many people have said to me, “I thought it was just me.” Or “I thought I was losing it.”
I found functional medicine doctors who could help me figure out the havoc my hormones were wreaking in response to the confused communications from command central. I don’t blame my brain for rallying the troupes around the wrong initiatives. I blame a lifetime of eating habits based on convenience, comfort, and toxic nutritional beliefs and generally checking out when I should have checked in and made some course corrections.
Dismantling the habits learned over a half a century required some serious commitment, along with a few costly mistakes, considerable investments in products and services, an adventurous spirit, and a healthy dose of humor. I read every book I could find on about nutrition, wellness, and becoming ageless.
A year later, after two 21-day detox/purification processes, learning to select and prepare nutritious foods, getting regular acupuncture treatments and exercise, and completing an 8-month eating psychology coaching certification program, I’m down 20 pounds. My blood pressure and cholesterol are down as well.
Is this the best gift I could give myself at this point in my life? Absolutely. Could I have done it sooner and saved myself a lot of grief and emotional anguish? Possibly. But in order to sustain this lifestyle shift, I had to understand why it mattered so much.
Although it would have helped me tremendously a decade ago, some journeys take time. It took Moses forty years to find his Promised Land. According to that timetable, I’m right on schedule.
There is no going back and pretending I don’t know what I now know. So though it’s been a little silent on the blogging front as I’ve been figuring this out, teaching classes, and meeting with local doctors and nutritionists, my goal for next year is to bring this information to you on a regular basis. I think of it as creating a GPS system so you don’t have to spend years wandering around the desert, questioning your sanity.
What about you? If you gave yourself the gift of a year, what would you love to accomplish so much that you’d be willing to put a plan together now to get there? Share in the message below.